Suffering from Isolation

“On a very practical level, human beings just fundamentally have a better chance of surviving in social and familial groups than in isolation,” says a Forbes article.

Most of us would not argue the basic sense in that statement. But how well is that reflected in our daily lives?

Surgeon General Murthy, referencing his practice in Boston, said that the most common illness he saw “was not heart disease or diabetes, but it was isolation. It was social disconnection.”

There are multiple factors in our culture’s increasing trend toward isolation, and it is so easy to drift that way without realizing it. How often do we catch ourselves absorbed in our phones in a group of friends? How many days are full of tasks and productivity without any meaningful interaction with all the people we saw, sometimes even our family members? How many good friends do you have, who know your daily life — good, bad, and ugly?

One beauty in loving our neighbors is that it is so good for us AND our neighbor. We need each other. Not just the help with a flat tire, but we also need the relationship. Conversations on the front porch, a daily phone call to an elderly family member or friend, and shared meals all improve our physical and emotional well-being, as well as our spiritual fitness.

God’s wisdom is amazing! Love your neighbor today.

 

Where Are You Going?

Ponder the path of your feet;
then all your ways will be sure. Proverbs 4:26

Where are you going today? Are you walking aimlessly, or have you planned out the direction for your day?

Have you taken a few minutes to set your mind on your purpose?

Do your plans, first of all, express love for God and then also reflect love for your neighbor as you walk through the day?

Did you look at your calendar and to-do list before starting the day, to make sure your priorities were mapped out?

Are you proactively walking in obedience to God and guarding your heart and home from evil, or are you constantly zig-zagging as you react to all the demands and distractions that come at you?

Have you looked to God’s Word for direction or are you leaning on your own understanding?

Where are you walking today?

Consider: The Excellent Wife

As a bridal shower gift, I received a copy of The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace. I thoroughly appreciated that gift! The book covers a lot of ground and gave me a lot to think about as I became a wife.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and love your family almost as much. Be patient and kind and do not be selfish. Create such an atmosphere in your home that your husband as well as other family members will look forward to coming home. They will want to be around you instead of avoid you…

A wife who has a gentle and meek spirit from the Lord provides a calming, soothing, and reassuring atmosphere in her home. She trusts God deeply and does not panic at difficult circumstances. She has a quiet confidence that God will “work all things for good to those who love God…” (Romans 8:28). Her confidence and faith in God grows daily as she studies the Scriptures because she is “growing in the grace and knowledge of (her) Lord and Savior Jesus Christ” (2 Peter 3:18, adaptation added).

 

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Race Against Yourself

So many things need to get done every day. When they don’t, it’s not so much fun to catch up (like laundry). But it’s not always so much fun doing it every day either!

A friend recently shared a tip she uses in the morning to motivate herself. She races to see how much she can do before her coffee is done in the morning. This includes emptying the dishwasher, washing any pans soaking from the night before, etc. She challenges herself to keep moving and to get as much as possible done in that short amount of time.

That’s such a great idea.

  • Because it’s a short time, it’s manageable instead of overwhelming.
  • Because it’s a race, there’s a little more energy put into completing those mundane tasks.
  • She knows what needs to be done and makes it fun to do. Who doesn’t need a little more fun in the daily task list?

You may have used this or seen it used with kids, but it’s just as fun for grown-ups — and for the same reasons.

Ready! Set! Go!

Step Back

Your to-do list is long, right? Every single day, more items on the list. Some days you add items faster than you can cross them off!

What can you do?

Step back and remember why you do anything at all.

Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.” (Matthew 22:37-40)

Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. (I Corinthians 10:31)

You are not a slave to your planner. You are to love God with every minute of each day. You have a purpose — a beautiful purpose!

So then, even when you take a half step forward and see a list of major responsibilities (also sometimes overwhelming), like those in Titus 2, you are still aware of your ultimate purpose. You love your husband in honor of your God. You practice self-control to bring glory to your Father.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (Titus 2:3-5)

Now when you look at your long list, remember you buy groceries to feed your family because you love them and you love God. You go shoe shopping for growing feet out of love for your children and your God. This applies to all the dentist appointments and chauffeuring and bill-paying and whatever else shows up on the list for the day.

Sometimes you may need to adjust your list and activities to fit your priorities, but even when they are all spot-on, you need the motivation to fuel your spirit as you walk through the day. Remember today!